Simple Steps to Conquering the Fears of Failure and Success

It’s human nature to think we will fail. Whether past failures haunt us, reminding us what could have been, well-intentioned friends try to protect us from falling, or others try to crush our dreams, we all, at one time or another, face the fear of failure.

“You can’t do that.” “It’s not possible.” That’s what they say. That’s what we tell ourselves.

The fear of failure is real, and, in many ways, understandable. No one wants to blunder in front of others, to be unsuccessful, to have friends and family see their collapse.

But as scary as failure is, there is something that scares many of us just as much. It is the fear of success.

Success conjures up images of shiny new cars, bigger homes, and names scrawled in bright lights across a well-known theater. (Or whatever you think of when you think of success.) But thinking of success also sends images to our brains that stop us from achieving our dreams.

I was once afraid of success. I wondered if it would hurt my family when I climbed the corporate ladder. I wondered if it would hurt me if I became more successful. I often wonder where those images arrived from, whether from too many stories, late-night movies, or just my own wild imagination. Whatever it was, my fear of success was very, very real.

And it stopped me from living my life.

We all have dreams and goals we’d like to accomplish. It could be losing weight, training for a marathon, finding a job, or writing a book. But we often stop before our dreams become reality. We stop because of fear, of failure, and success.

If you are stopped dead in your tracks, afraid of failing or succeeding, I encourage you to read these few steps that have helped me along the way. I hope they help you as well.

Steps to conquer Fear of Failure and Fear of Success:
1. Recognize your fear. Accept it. Acknowledge it. It is real.
2. Believe in yourself. Believe in what you are trying to accomplish. It doesn’t matter who says you can do something, and it certainly doesn’t matter who says you can’t. You must believe in YOU.
3. Remember, no one can predict your success or failure. Not even you. But if you never try, you will never know.
4. Recognize failure for what it is, one more stepping stone on the way to success.
5. Be afraid. Own your fear. Then use it to conquer and move forward. Fear can be an enemy, or it can be a motivator. You choose.
6. Never give up. As Thomas Edison said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that didn’t work.”

Fear of success. Fear of failure. Both are real. Both can be conquered.

A few quotes to inspire you:

“I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.” – Tony Robbins

“It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.” –Theodore Roosevelt

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The Art of Failure

I once had many failures hidden in closets and tucked inside drawers. An untouched sewing machine, next to patterns and material never used; bottles of paint, packages of brushes, mere dreams of pictures I would someday create; jars with buttons, tiny bits of ribbon, greeting cards never made; strings of beads and baubles, jewelry never completed.

I tried almost every type of craft, and many times, most times, I quit. I used to think I was a failure, incompetent, inept.

But one day, I cleansed my home, rid its contents of everything that didn’t matter to me. As I poured craft remnants into a large bag, my heart began to ache. I was sad for a life I had dreamt of, one I had never seen.

But a funny thing happened the day I dropped that bag at the thrift store. My heart did a turn around, a reversal, a leap in the air. I was free, I was light. The stress was removed, gone from my life.

I no longer had to pretend to be someone I wasn’t. I no longer had to try to like things I didn’t.

The sense of failure I once felt was gone. I had never failed. I had only tried. I had made discoveries with each stroke of a brush, felt it in the hum of a sewing machine, saw it when I placed a tiny bead upon a string.

That day, when almost every craft was gone from my life, I discovered something new about myself. My gifts were not in strings and baubles and beads, my gifts were in words I would one day share.

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I own very few craft items now. What once filled a room now sits inside a box. My projects were never failed attempts, only lessons waiting to be learned.

You can never fail, unless you never try. Never give up exploring, discovering, experimenting with life.strong>

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